I was a little sheltered growing up–with movies, that is.
Jeff (my significant other) who is a “Movie Man” by nature, almost had his eyes pop out of his head as soon as he met me and I said “No, I haven’t seen that one either” to pretty much every film title he rattled off. He knows the name to every actor since the silent films, he can quote movie after movie and writes the best reviews. It’s a passion of his that I’m pretty ignorant with. I’ll be the first to admit it. We laugh about it, even now, when he makes a reference that I don’t understand—but truth is, I’m pretty grateful that I was kept away from a lot of stuff that I’m viewing now and can’t imagine my younger self watching.
I’m okay being called sheltered.
So, naturally, you’d expect me to be on the side of the argument with the thousands of people that are now busy signing petitions to ban the new film “Beauty and the Beast” because of an openly gay moment between two male characters. I haven’t seen the movie yet, so I’m not going to judge how raunchy or racy the scene was–and frankly, it might make me uncomfortable to watch, not for the fact the characters are gay–but for the fact that I’m a prude. Seriously, ask anyone. I totally am.
But I’m not signing the petition.
You know why? Because it doesn’t matter to our kids. Watching two men kiss will not brainwash them to choose a different sexuality. Watching two men kiss will not poison their minds to think less of the relationship their parents have or their future relationships for that matter. It won’t make them commit crime or degrade future significant others. A kiss won’t make them hate their bodies or objectify the bodies of others.
But something else will. I guarantee it.
There’s a bigger issue in society that no one signs a petition for or writes blogs about or smothers social media with, and that’s because it’s not a “sexy” trend. But it’s poisoning our kids left and right. And more than two men kissing, it is creating a desensitized generation.
And that’s pornography.
I’m not just talking about the X-rated videos and images that are blatantly pornographic.
I’m talking about the fact that every movie I see nowadays it feels like it has at least one scene with a topless woman in it. I’m talking about commercials for lubricant or Viagra that cross so many lines I’ve lost track–and the sex scenes in every new release movie, music video, and even theater plays of our generation that explicitly show sex, promiscuous women, rape, strippers, sexually abusive relationships, prostitution….need I even go on? It is romanticized, glamorized, airbrushed, and lauded. It is shown so frequently and in so many ways that it has become our normal.
As a society we are helping romanticize the violation of our daughters. And we are egging our sons on to take part.
That’s on us.
There is no petition. There is no public outcry. Little by little, piece by piece, we’ve grown accustomed to it. We don’t cringe anymore or even look away. Instead, we buy tickets to the front row.
And then we wonder why our daughters feel the need to have sex in order to feel loved. We scratch our heads why women are so insecure about their bodies–and even young men for that matter. We shrug off the notion that marriages are falling apart because of this.
But there is no petition.
When I was doing research work for a thesis paper at my university I decided on the topic of pornography in western culture and the impacts it has on our generation. I went in knowing the basics and already feeling passionate about how I’ve seen it destroy lives in my personal circle. But nothing prepared me for everything else. The people I met–the stories I heard–the support groups I attended to listen to stories and to actually speak to someone who sat on the other side of metal bars, telling me his crimes all began when he became addicted to pornography.
I’m not saying that everyone who views pornography will become a murderer or even a detriment to society for that matter. But everyone WILL be affected. A psychiatrist out of Boise, ID I spoke to about the effects of pornography showed me various CT scans while I was doing my thesis research. Some scans were those of a heroin addict, some scans were those of pornography addicts. He asked me to categorize them without knowing which was which. Needless to say, I didn’t do well at his little quiz. They were hard to tell apart. Consistently viewing pornography literally changes the brain’s chemistry. Do the research.
But there’s no petition.
Whether it’s through how we view relationships or how we view women, or how we treat our marriage or the other relationships in our lives. With the images, the advertisements, and the preaching of society in this generation–none of us will walk away unscathed. We’re all part of the fire.
And that gets me angry.
It gets me angry for my little girl who has to see it, no matter how hard we try to keep it out, and who has to be a victim of it by how men or society as a whole will view her or treat her or expect her to be as she grows up.
It gets me angry for the little boys who who will be indoctrinated from a young age to think its normal–or worse yet, to become part of the problem.
But I don’t see a petition. Instead I see people uprising over two men kissing because it will CORRUPT our kids. I see Disney under the microscope with their so-called “gay” agenda, while all the while we rent “Fifty Shades Darker” as we watch it casually with a glass of wine and say it’s good entertainment.
It gets me angry. And it should get you angry too.
For as long as I can I’ll shield my little girl’s eyes from all the things that makes this world dark. I’ll try my best to show her light and love and goodness. I’ll shower her with Trolls and It’s a Small World and Charlie Brown and remind her that she’s beautiful for no other reason than because she’s smart and happy and caring and good.
So you can have your “Fifty Shades Darker” and “Magic Mike” and “Wedding Crashers” and “Showgirls”–and all the filth that slips past the petition marker.
We’ll be over here with a bucket of popcorn singing with the dancing teacups.
“Without a clear moral vision, we devolve into moral relativism, and from there, into oblivion.”
― Ben Shapiro,
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**Note: Due to some very helpful corrections, a couple of edits have been made to the article. Thank you to all who comment–I appreciate it!